Your Mourning Routine Will Change Your Life

Deep sorrow can be a source of joy

What if the way you mourn could provide you with a broader understanding of who you are? What if regret and lamentations could be a pathway to finding peace? Negative thought patterns produce unwanted behaviors, and frequently, you are not aware of them but a state of mourning is visceral and undeniable. Grief is palpable. Mourning and loss, the experience of impermanence,

We need to adapt in order to grow and to develop resilience. We have to mourn old habits and grieve by saying “no” to things, people and places that do not serve us.

The future is not guaranteed. As a defense mechanism we tell ourselves that we have control over what happens next. The reality is, you cannot control anything but your reaction to what occurs around you. We must learn to mourn the loss of control and let go of the illusion that we have the jurisdiction over external factors. At any moment something can and will happen that cuts your future short or alters your trajectory in a way that you could not have anticipated.

Emotional pain has a purpose. Feelings of disappointment and regret are teachers. It is challenging to sit with these unsavory sensations, but if we give space for hurt and allow ourselves to go through the grieving process, we will develop a…